Hot Topic: We’ve all heard by now that Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore are getting a divorce.
Demi’s publicist released the celebrity news to ABC News last week.
Demi heard from a bird that her hubby’s been double dipping, and she’s not having that! You go girl!
But what I find more interesting is something I’ve heard about another Hollywood couple’s marriage, and how adultery would never be an issue for them.
According to Digital Spy, Will Smith allegedly said that his marriage to Jada Pinkett-Smith works because they allow each other to have sex with other people.
“Our perspective is, you don’t avoid what’s natural and you’re going to be attracted to people,” Smith said to the celebrity news and gossip site. “And if it came down to it, then one would say to the other: ‘Look, I need to have sex with somebody. Now, I’m not going to if you don’t approve of it.'”
Smith adds that divorce is not an option in their marriage, and that his relationship with Jada survives infidelity as long as they keep it honest with one another.
“In our marriage vows, we didn’t say ‘forsaking all others’. We said, ‘you will never hear I did something afterwards.’ Because if that happens the relationship is destroyed,” Smith said.
Clearly, Kutcher and Moore didn’t have that arrangement.
“As a woman, a mother and a wife, there are certain values and vows that I hold sacred, and it is in this spirit that I have chosen to move forward with my life,” Moore said.
Here’s my opinion: I love how Will and Jada are that progressive. It completely makes sense as to why they’re always smiling in photos.
So is an open marriage the only way to avoid being cheated on these days? Does telling your partner you’re having sex with someone else and having them be okay with it the only way to stay together?
For some it may be, but I’m with team Demi. If you make a vow, you stick to it!
I’ve always thought of marriage as a lifelong cell phone contract. At first it’s new, and the service is great, but one day you might start losing your connection and the vibrate feature won’t work as well anymore.
That doesn’t give you the right to go vibrate with someone else!
You signed a contract!
It all comes down to these two options:
A. If you want to sleep around, then don’t get married.
or
B. If you want to sleep around and be married at the same time, then find someone who’s okay with that.
I can respect how Will and Jada make their marriage work. An open marriage might be a way of avoiding divorce for them. That’s how they keep things going, and more power to them for that.
However, I say, good for Demi! That’s not what she signed up for, and she shouldn’t have to accept infidelity. I watch way too much daytime drama to know that once a cheater, always a cheater. Plus, that punk was getting too old for her anyway.
So for some, an open relationship might be the solution to divorce, but for others, cheating will always be cheating.
Be clear with your partner on what type of relationship you want from the get-go. If you need to sleep around, then state it at day one. Otherwise, don’t make promises you can’t keep. It’s not fair to both parties, and you’re doing nothing but wasting time and hurting feelings.
Honesty for the win!