Some may believe that the indicator of great sex is the orgasm. Being a woman, I can safely say that when a friend of mine starts sleeping with someone new, one of my first questions is in the interest of the orgasm.
For most sexually active people, exchange of sex stories revolve around orgasmic experiences and different masturbation methods. Given this understanding, I was immediately interested in what CSULB men and women felt about the gratifying experience of an orgasm and what they were doing with respect to self-gratification.
Orgasms are achieved in many ways, whether using masturbation or experimenting with positions and techniques during sex. With that said, orgasms are not always guaranteed.
A fellow female CSULB student, who has chosen to remain anonymous, said, “At 21 years old, I have not yet had an orgasmic sexual experience with my current or previous boyfriends.” She also questions whether or not she will ever have one.
Finding comfort in sexual relationships can be tedious for some couples. This can hinder the satisfaction of the act. Senior biology major, Amy Adams said, “It took a year for me to be fully comfortable having sex with my now ex-boyfriend.” Being able to easily communicate likes and dislikes during sex is a key factor in “hitting the spot.”
Masturbation is the answer for those sexually active people who have not yet experienced an orgasm during intercourse, and for those who like to please themselves regularly. An anonymous freshman nursing major shared with me that she “gets off” for hours and has multiple orgasms while masturbating; she has yet to have sexual intercourse. She went on to mention her use of pornography and provided some insight: “Making noises and tensing up makes the experience better.”
Learning about personal sexual desires requires exploration of one self. Using masturbation as a tool for discovering those “pleasurable spots” will come in handy for future sexual escapades. Everyone one wants that “Oh! Face.”
Many CSULB males and females interviewed, said they masturbate regularly. Some women were timid about admitting they attain orgasm using sex toys, such as vibrators and shower or bath heads. Men, on the other hand, were quick to say they are most inclined to use magazines or watch pornography.
Friends of mine have shared stories about faking orgasms to make their partner happy. This made me wonder if the men knew when the women were acting or if the women knew when the men were acting.
Second year English major, Kenji Magrann-Wells said, “I have never noticed if a girl has faked an orgasm, but that would be the worst thing in the world if I knew that.”
Sex is obviously better when both partners experience climax. When only one partner enjoys making love, the lack of connection can be awkward. Kenji continued with, “Men can fake orgasms just as well as women do.”
Julian Marcelin, fourth year creative writing major, also felt that “faking is horrible.” He has never caught a girl faking an orgasm. He also has not faked orgasmic sex with anyone himself. “I don’t fake orgasms; I might moan for effect, but never would I fake the experience.”
Though both men interviewed denied experiencing a fake orgasm, a handful of women revealed that they had faked their moans on one or more occasions.
When sex lacks the orgasm, essentially there is no cherry on top of the ice cream. CSULB men and women equally desire the climax because that toe-curling ending is really what makes the sex great.
Kylee Delgadillo is a junior journalism major and a contributing writer for the Daily 49er.